RE: Weekly Marriage Builder, June 25, 2006: Dealing with Your Past

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For Some Reason this didn’t go out
when I tried to send it out before – so I’m trying to send it out again

 

—–Original Message—–
From: djembe queen
[mailto:djembequeen@comcast.net]
Sent:
Monday, June
26, 2006
10:48 AM
Subject: FW: Weekly Marriage
Builder,
June 25, 2006: Dealing with Your Past

 

I found this to be perfect timing
– printing this & I will be putting this up for me to review while
I’m reading my bible & saying my prayers to shatter the
strongholds…

 

 between a recent email &
speaking with a couple of people who are dealing with things done "back in
the day" this came in & now Beth Moore is on TV with a similar message
about dealing with past issues so I’m passing this on for everyone else to
consider what in our past we may need to deal with & resolve so that we can
become whole & healed

Love Your Sister in Christ &
Fellow Stander

Theresa

 

—–Original Message—–


From: Jimmy Evans – MarriageToday [mailto:jimmy@marriagetoday.org]
Sent:
Sunday, June 25, 2006 11:00 PM
Subject: Weekly Marriage Builder, June 25, 2006: Dealing with Your Past

 

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BUILDER" EMAIL

 

 Presented by MarriageToday
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Dear theresa,

 

One of the ingredients necessary
for a happy marriage is to make sure we deal
with the issues of our past
.

 

The truth is — the past isn’t the past until it has been dealt with
properly, because our past effects today in a negative manner.

Therefore, it is still the present.

 

Every person has some kind of
baggage they bring in with them when they get married.

 

Common examples of baggage are
hurts that have never been dealt with,

Unforgiveness,
generational sins from the wrong behaviors we were raised around, and quirks in
our personalities that have never been fixed
.

 

In order to deal with your past,
 

You first of all have to be willing
to be blatantly honest with yourself.

We have a tendency to see the flaws
in our spouse and associate them with how messed up their family is or past was
— but sometimes we are blind to our own issues. 

We need to honestly look at
some of our less than stellar qualities and ask this question: "Could I be this way because of something in my
past that I haven’t dealt with?"

 

The answer is always — yes!

 

All of us are the sum total of our
pasts.

The good things in our past produce
the good qualities in our lives today.

The bad things in our pasts that we
haven’t dealt with create personality problems, emotional issues, relational
difficulties and last but not least — marriage trouble.

 

When you begin dealing with your
past…,

 

The first thing to do is to surrender to Jesus and ask the Holy Spirit to
reveal to you anything or anyone in your past you need to deal with.

 

The second critical issue is always forgiveness.

 All of us have deep hurts
from our past.  Without forgiveness, our hurts become festering wounds
that never heal and cause our personalities to malform around them. The simple
act of forgiveness can set you free from your past and free for your future
faster than almost anything else you can do.

 

Finally, we must take responsibility for our own problems.

An example is the issue of generational sins. As we realize that
our parents may have modeled a wrong behavior to us — we must forgive them and
then repent to God for our own sins. If we live
blaming our parents or others in our past for our problems, we will never be
set free
.

 

We must also learn to repent to our spouses and others around us for our
negative behavior
. As we see the association between our past issues and
present behavior, we also need to see how that negative behavior effects
others.

 

When we do this and take
responsibility for it — our baggage drops off of us and

our past truly becomes the past
with no negative influence on our lives today.

 

Ask the Lord to help you as you
surrender to the process. 

Don’t focus on your spouse. You’ll
be surprised how quickly their baggage drops off once you begin to change.

 

Blessings,

 

Jimmy Evans

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